community

Mar
11
A young white woman with dark hair lies face down on grass, her arms folded over her head.

Finding Community and Building Solidarity for Socially Exhausted Introverts*

If you're paying attention, you find the keys to all your future interactions
3 min read
Mar
04
An assembly line of gardeners work together to plant pink and yellow flowers in a long brick planter

How to Heal When Life Feels Like the Environment That Harmed You

Regaining our sense of agency is another way of saying regaining the sense of power we lost in the environment(s) that harmed us
5 min read
Feb
05
A stalk of purple flowers grows tall through rows of yellow flowers, standing out

Asking for Help When You Don’t Conform to Social Expectations

Here’s what “trans rights are human rights” really means -- for everyone
5 min read
Jan
31
A woman's hand holds a pen over paper on a wooden desk beside a notebook and a mug.

To Protect Our Children, We First Need to Heal Ourselves

The predatory men I engaged with recognized I was starved for connection. Our support structures need to realize this, too.
13 min read
Jan
31
A man dressed as Spiderman and wearing a yellow jacket shows card tricks to a group of childr

How American Hero Narratives Keep Us From Solving Social Crises — or Healing

We insist on “rescuer” narratives at the expense of developing agency for our children and ourselves
10 min read
Jan
31
A Latin child with dark hair and a red shirt gazes at the camera with suspicion.

5 Things “Stranger Danger” Education Got Wrong, and 1 It Gets Right

How emphasizing “stranger danger” hamstrung a generation’s understanding of threats to child safety
9 min read
Jan
31
White cutouts on a gray background contain black text with words like "Trauma," "Self-esteem," "Hopelessness," etc

How Generational Trauma Compounds Child and Intimate Partner Abuse

Learning to fit in and not make waves might have been considered a form of “practice” for adult womanhood. We paper over our needs, preferences, and sense of autonomy when we learn they’re antithetical to our survival.
9 min read
Jan
31
A lone figure walks a gray wooden boardwalk nestled among brown marsh reeds on a cloudy day.

Why It’s More Critical Now Than Ever to Tell Our “Not That Bad” Abuse Stories

Knowing what it looks, sounds, acts, and feels like before it becomes criminal can help us heal — and know what to look for. Our future may depend on it.
15 min read
Jan
23
A brown pigeon stands on pavement among gray pigeons, the only one in a shaft of light

Asking for Help When Help Feels Few and Far Between

At a time when I feel less fearful of healthy confrontation, others seem to fear it from me — a sign of a deeply dysfunctional society
5 min read
Jul
09
A white man's hands hold the hands of an elderly woman in a blue skirt, seated in a wheelchair

Need Help? Look for the Strings Attached (Before They Strangle You)

Receiving assistance shouldn’t stand on the back of your submission to authority
7 min read